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The Best Steps to Avert a Divorce, Part II  

August 11, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

Earlier this week, we wrote about two of the best things you can do to strengthen a relationship that you might fear is on the precipice of a divorce. We promised you more — and here it is! Invest In Them The first two tips from the last post (which you really should read) could be summed up as “trust ...

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The Best Steps to Avert a Divorce, Part I

August 8, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

Let’s be perfectly honest: there is no such thing as a foolproof plan to keep a spouse who wants a divorce from getting it. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t several extremely powerful steps that you can take to avoid coming to stay out of my office. Let’s talk about how the body, mind, and heart work together, and ...

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The Four Emotional Stages That Come Before Divorce

August 4, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

So you just got served a notice — your spouse intends to divorce you. That might be a complete blind-side, or it might be something you saw coming a long time ago. Either way, it’s hard not to ask yourself: how could they do this to me? We looked at the psychology behind the decision to ask for a divorce ...

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The Five Rules Guiding Every Decision to Divorce

August 1, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

Humankind seems like a massively chaotic, incomprehensible entity when you look at it as a whole. Heck, any one human generally seems that way! But as it turns out, while there are infinite variations on the themes of human life, there are certain rules that everyone follows. Even under extreme circumstances, anyone can be counted on to follow these rules ...

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 Virtual Affairs: Are They Cheating?

July 28, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

Traditionally, there are two recognized kinds of affairs that married people can engage in: sexual affairs, which are well-known, and emotional affairs, which involve confiding in and getting emotional support from someone outside your marriage. Many affairs are both. But there’s a new kind of affair that’s been in the spotlight recently, particularly in America’s divorce courts: Online or ‘virtual’ ...

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Military Parents with Custody Problems: What’s the Law?

July 25, 2016
Posted in: Child Custody

So you’re a parent with sole custody and you’re in the military. You get the news that you’re being deployed, and that you’re going to have to hand custody of your children over to your ex for the duration of your deployment. Is that really what’s going to happen? It depends. If your ex hasn’t been excluded from custody (usually ...

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Cultural Myths that Enable Divorce, Part II

July 21, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

If you haven’t read Part I, start there, or this won’t make a lot of sense to you. If you have, let’s just jump right in with the next myth to be dispelled: More than Half of All Marriages End in Divorce (I.E. Marriage is Doomed Before it Starts) This myth was once true…in the 1970s and 80s. But it ...

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Cultural Myths that Enable Divorce, Part I

July 18, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

Two fish are swimming through the water, when they meet an older fish swimming the other way. “Morning, boys! How’s the water?” The two fish swim on for a while, when one of them looks at the other and asks, “What the hell is water?” This story serves to illustrate a very basic point about human life: we’re frequently so ...

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Dads During Divorce: 3 Keys to Keeping it Cool

July 14, 2016
Posted in: Divorce

Typically, a divorce is not the time that you expect someone to be at their most functional. Divorce is stressful, messy, and painful, and it’s absurdly easy to make it much, much worse with a single angry comment. And because of our society’s inherent tendency to view men as more aggressive, we also tend to be much more ready to ...

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Michigan’s Flawed New Abortion Coercion Bill, Part II

July 13, 2016
Posted in: Michigan Law

Last week, we talked about exactly why the language in MCL 750.213a is profoundly flawed in a way that will likely cause some doctors to simply stop talking about abortion to pregnant women. I mentioned that it was relevant to family law, but I didn’t talk much about how — or about why the law’s flaws were so important. It’s ...

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