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Child Custody Myths: How Common is Cuckoldry?

February 9, 2017
Posted in: Child Custody

“Cuck” is one of the new insults-of-the-moment, being somewhere behind “Snowflake” but above “Cupcake” on the list of insults-of-the-moment, and it’s a fascinating one insofar as it is built on a myth…but it’s a myth that nearly everyone buys into with gusto. A cuck is someone who is soft, pansy, effeminate, and weak. The interesting part, though, is that it’s ...

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The Silliness of ‘Phubbing’ and Recognizing Real Marital Problems

February 6, 2017
Posted in: Divorce

Humans have a very odd psychological tendency to focus on the wrong problems, and martial problems are no different. The new strife du jour is called ‘pphubbing‘ — a portmanteau of ‘phone’ and ‘snubbing,’ with an extra ‘p’ at the beginning for ‘partner.’ Phubbing is when someone (your spouse, in the case of pphubbing) ignores you in favor of their ...

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Child Custody Across National Borders

February 2, 2017
Posted in: Child Custody

The recent swearing-in of our newest Commander in Chief had left no small number of people openly talking about emigrating from the United States. While that’s a much more difficult task than many people realize, it can happen — which leads us to wonder, what happens if someone who shares custody of a child should move to a different country? ...

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Just In Case: Life Insurance as Supplemental Child Support

January 30, 2017
Posted in: Divorce

Child support orders are made by taking a lot of factors into account and applying a huge, legally-ordained formula that filters those factors together and comes to an amount that must be paid each month. But as powerful as that formula is, the one thing it cannot take into account is the passage of time, and how likely it is ...

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Child Support Myths Exposed: The Deadbeat Dads

January 26, 2017
Posted in: Child Custody

There are some stories common to American culture that have known roots in real events or people. The Robber Barons. The hippies. The Lone Ranger. But then there are other ideas equally common to American culture that are just stories we tell each other. Some have absolutely no basis in reality, like the ‘razor blades in apples’ story. Some are ...

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Pension in Military Divorces: the Law has Changed

January 23, 2017
Posted in: Divorce

In December of 2016, every state had its own laws about how military divorces handled pensions. Most states handle all pensions the same way: by giving the spouse a percentage of the pension equal to the percentage of years-married to years-worked, divided by 2. For example, if you worked for 20 years to earn your pension, and you were married ...

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Cards for Humanity…Or At Least for Struggling Co-Parents

January 19, 2017
Posted in: Divorce

Divorce is hard. But it’s not just the emotional rollercoaster and the adversarial headbutting in court — even after all that is over, you wake up the morning after and you face the task of reconfiguring your life. That’s difficult enough when you’re only taking care of yourself…if you have a child or three, the challenge grows exponentially. It gets ...

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The Devil is in the Details: Family Court Appeals are Tricky

January 12, 2017
Posted in: Divorce, Michigan Law

I was talking over a minor but interesting case with a few of my colleagues this week, and someone pointed out the lesson to be found. I liked the example enough that I decided to turn it into a blog post. The case is Bergh v. Bergh [PDF], and in short, the story is this: Two fairly well-off people were ...

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Marriage Troubles: Talking About Seeing a Therapist

January 9, 2017
Posted in: Divorce

In our last post, we talked a bit about how a couple can easily end up skipping the ‘let’s talk to a relationship counselor’ phase of a large martial dispute, and end up going straight to ‘let’s get a divorce.’ That’s a shame, and to help combat it, we introduced a few steps designed to make sure ‘the talk’ about ...

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Marriage Troubles: Try a Therapist Before You Try a Lawyer  

January 5, 2017
Posted in: Divorce

One of the most devastating realizations a comfortably married person can have is that the other person in their relationship isn’t happy with the way the marriage is working out. And because oftentimes people don’t effectively communicate, it’s frequently the case that the first warning you’ll have that your spouse wants to get a divorce is the paper you get ...

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