For most people, the words “spring break” conjure up images of sun-drenched beaches, dream vacations, and leisurely downtime. But if you’re a parent sharing custody, spring break planning can sometimes feel more like navigating a minefield than getting some much-needed R&R.
It’s a difficult balancing act, trying to respect your custody agreement while also ensuring that you and your kids have a good time. However, fun-filled, drama-free spring breaks are possible with the right approach.
Here are three tips to help you master those tricky travel plans and give your kids the trip they deserve.
1. Communication Is Key
Things may not be great between you and your co-parent, and that might make talking to them hard. Even so, it’s important to keep them in the loop about your travel plans and intentions and make sure they’re on board.
Don’t wait until the last minute to bring up your spring break plans. If you’re already brainstorming about your special trip with the kids, reach out to them and start the conversation. Share dates, destinations, itineraries — all the details and ideas you’ve come up with.
Try to be flexible and willing to compromise. Perhaps your co-parent has some scheduling conflicts and a different set of dates would work better for them, or maybe they’re planning their own getaway with the kids. You can’t know unless you open a dialogue.
The sooner you discuss things, the more time you’ll have to iron out any conflicts and avoid last-minute scrambles to make things work. If everyone is on the same page, everyone will be happy — especially your kids.
2. Learn Your Custody Agreement Inside and Out
Before you even start looking at flights, hotels, and the like, pull out your custody agreement and read it front to back. Find and study the sections that pertain to holiday and vacation travel so you’ll know exactly what you’re dealing with and how to comply.
For example, does your agreement specify which parent gets the kids during spring break each year? Does it include any restrictions on travel? Knowing these things now will keep you from running into legal trouble down the road.
If your agreement is vague or doesn’t address spring break specifically, that’s all the more reason to reach out to your co-parent and get a mutual agreement in writing.
3. Put the Kids First
Ultimately, the most important thing to remember is that spring break is about your kids. Their well-being and enjoyment should be your top priorities.
Try putting yourself in their shoes. For them, spring break is about spending quality time with both parents. So, while you might have an extra special trip planned, make sure to leave enough room in the itinerary for them to have plenty of time with the other parent — the same consideration you’d want in return.
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Whether it’s for an upcoming trip or another matter, the attorneys at Gucciardo Family Law can help you navigate your custody agreement with confidence. Contact us today to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.
