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When Is It Appropriate To Introduce A New Partner To Your Children After A Divorce

When is It Appropriate to Introduce a New Partner to Your Children after a Divorce?

Divorce, in and of itself, is a difficult and heartbreaking process, especially when children are involved.  The hope, of course, is that parents can overcome their differences in order to effectively co-parent in the wake of a divorce.

Over time, the pain of divorce should fade, making it easier for parents to get along, especially if both are committed to providing the loving, supportive, and stable environment children need to thrive.  Unfortunately, this delicate balance could be upset by one or both parents developing relationships with new partners.

Parents need to be extremely careful about introducing new partners into the lives of their children following a divorce.  This is not only for the benefit of children, who may be naturally opposed to the notion of Mommy or Daddy dating someone new, but also for parents that have developed a productive co-parenting relationship following divorce.  When is the right time to introduce a new partner into the mix?  Here are a few things to consider.

Possible Reactions by Children

The truth is that children of any age are likely to have at least an initial reaction to a new partner and possible parental figure that is less than enthusiastic.  Young children will almost certainly adapt more quickly, but even toddlers could be understandably upset by the presence of someone new, taking your attention away from them.

Reactions to a new partner could range from mild jealousy and resentment to intense feelings of anxiety, anger, and frustration.  Children may act out in a variety of ways, such as with willful disobedience or tantrums.  Adolescents may turn to harmful activities.

Of course, you have a lot of influence on how the relationship between your children and your new partner develops.  When you have an understanding of the types of reactions children may have and where their fear and anger is coming from, you can take steps to reduce anxiety and stress and pave the way for a fruitful relationship.

Waiting Until the Relationship is Serious

Because of the time and effort needed to help children develop positive relationships with a new partner, you want to make sure you’re ready and that your partner is on board.  This means waiting to introduce a new partner until you are sure the relationship has potential to last for the foreseeable future.

In other words, don’t bring home a one-night stand, or even someone you’ve been out with a few times.  Before you put your family on the emotional roller coaster that results from introducing a new love interest, you need to consider the best interests of your children.

Maintaining Open Lines of Communication

The most important part of introducing a new partner to your children is making sure they know that they come first.  While you needn’t necessarily base your decisions on what your kids want, you can let them know that you love and support them, that their opinions matter to you, and that they can always talk to you about what they’re feeling.  It also helps if your ex-spouse affirms the same message.

The legal ins and outs of divorce, remarriage, and shared custody can be difficult to deal with.  Contact the professionals at The Gucciardo Law Firm today at 248-723-5190 to learn more about your legal situation.

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