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Last month, we presented three very easy ways to turn a relationship into an ex-relationship. Insecurity, the need for dominance, and the need for distance all made an appearance…but it turns out there are a lot of ways to kill a relationship. Here are a few more of the classics: Needing To Be Right When you get into a fight ...

It’s not easy to get into a conflict with someone you love — and it’s even more difficult when the conversation gets toxic and destructive. The classic ‘ounce of prevention theory’ works here: we’re going to talk a bit about how to keep the conversation emotionally safe and keep alienation to a minimum. There are seven concept being Safe Conflicts: ...

Back in January of 2014, a curious study was published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, claiming that all it took to cut the divorce rate in half was for newlyweds to watch a single ‘relationship movie’ every week and discuss it with each other afterwards. That’s a heck of a claim, and as you might expect, there ...

Families are more tightly connected than many of us give them credit for. The first time you glance down at your newborn grandchild, you’ll know a love that will change your life — different than the love you have for your son or daughter, but nevertheless powerful and resounding. But what happens if your child and child-in-law end up getting ...

When you announce that you’re intending to get a divorce, it seems that everyone wants to tell you divorce horror stories. Unfortunately, those stories don’t really do anyone any good — all they do is make you panic unnecessarily. You’re already emotionally vulnerable during a divorce; don’t let these careless words do you more harm. The one thing you need ...

It’s hard, after a divorce, to get used to being a single parent with custody. Without your ex to depend on for simple things like watching the kid while you run to the store (or vice versa), it can seem like everyday tasks take twice as long and the number of tasks there are to accomplish doubles at the same ...

What do you want out of your divorce? That can be a difficult question. Perfectly valid answers abound: “I want custody of my children.” “I want to ensure my financial security.” “I want just want it to end.” But while those answers are valid, they’re not particularly useful. It’s one thing to put some effort into making sure that the ...

When you’re to the part of your divorce where you have to negotiate your financial settlement, understanding your situation and your options is key. Here are some of the things that many people miss when settling their finances: Property Taxes It’s easy to think of a property as a simple asset, but remember that that asset comes with a built-in ...

A divorce defines a huge part of your financial, legal, emotional, and physical lives. That’s why it’s absolutely critical to approach the issue with a team that will make sure that you get everything you need — and hopefully a good portion of what you want — out of the proceeding. In particular, you need (at the minimum!) a lawyer ...

It’s not easy to break away from someone you love, even when that person is destructive to you. If you weren’t getting something that you wanted and needed out of the relationship, you wouldn’t be in the relationship in the first place. But a dysfunctional relationship takes more out of your life than it gives you — and the only ...