Everything Dads Should and Shouldn’t Do During a Divorce
The dissolution of a marriage is emotionally fraught, especially if there are children involved. Often, fathers assume the court will always side with the mother, so they may not bother doing some things that could help them win better custody agreements. If you’re going through a divorce, there are some tips to keep in mind.
Don’t Move Out
After deciding to get a divorce, it’s common for the man to feel like he has to move out of the house. Don’t do this. It could affect how the court sees the division of property as well as how they arrange child custody.
By staying at the family home, you demonstrate that you have just as much of a right to be there as your spouse. It also shows the court that you are there for your children and take responsibility for their well-being, just as their mother does.
Be Proactive
Take the time to show up to pick up your children or attend school events without being prompted. You want to demonstrate that you are an important part of your children’s lives and, therefore, you deserve equal custody.
Also, it’s important to cooperate with your spouse throughout the process so they’re less likely to fight against your custody wishes.
Don’t Put Your Children in the Middle
Divorce isn’t pretty, and emotions run very high. You need to keep discussions between you and your spouse without bringing your children into the conversation. Focus on what’s best for them. This will help them and will also put you in a favorable light during custody hearings.
Keep Thorough Records
It can be time-consuming, but you need to record everything. This includes every time you see your kids, any reasons why you may not have been able to see them, the efforts you’ve made to communicate with them, any purchases you’ve made for them, and more.
If your spouse sends you hurtful messages, save them. They could be useful later in giving you the upper hand during the divorce.
Be on Your Best Behavior
From the moment you speak about a divorce with your spouse, you need to ensure you are the best version of yourself. Lawyers and the court itself will scrutinize any behavior like late nights out drinking or bringing a new significant other to the house. Until the divorce is finalized, it’s important to lay low.
Turn to Gucciardo Family Law Early in the Process
You’ll want to have someone representing you and your rights. Even if you don’t think the divorce will be contentious, you shouldn’t try to go through the process on your own.
At Gucciardo Family Law, we offer the assistance you may need as you navigate the complexities of a divorce. We’ll help you understand what you should and shouldn’t do so that you have the best chance of getting the fair divorce result you deserve, including equal custody. Contact Gucciardo Family Law today.
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